True Friendship

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I believe that friendship is a two way street. It takes two people actively engaged to make a relationship work.

I know that life changes, and some friendships are only meant for a season.

But, I also believe that when someone is truly your friend, they will chase after you if you begin to pull away. 

If you suddenly feel like a friendship is becoming one-sided – If you feel a friend pulling away.  Don’t take it personally. Perhaps that friend is going through a difficult season and needs you now, more than ever.

Don’t give up on the people you love. Remind them you’re there. Remind them they’re loved. Stretch out your hand of friendship and don’t pull it back if they don’t immediately respond.

When people go through a difficult time, in the beginning it’s not always easy to open up. In fact, it can be very hard and so it becomes easier to pull away.

Looking back I wonder if I have at times, taken things personally in my friendships, and missed the opportunity to be a true friend when I was need the most.

If you can’t be there for your friend with your words or with your help… you can be there for them in prayer.
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Around the Table

Tonight a couple of students came over and we cooked dinner together. Since steaks were on the menu, I decided the best place to eat was around the table.  As I was setting the table, the comment was made: “We are sitting at the table!? That’s cool, my family never sits down at the table!”  A prayer was said before we began to eat, and although the three of us have known each other for a relatively short amount of time, it felt like I was in the presence of family.

There is just something about sitting around a table, praying together, and sharing a meal that can unite hearts.

While dinner was wonderful, what was even more wonderful was the conversation that took place. We talked about our dreams, ideas, and frustrations. Visions and goals were shared followed with encouragement to move forward. I was inspired as I listened to two young men talk about changing the world and overcoming their pasts, naysayers, and obstacles.  I have to say, my heart was very happy.

During the meal, we were not on our phones, and incoming phone calls were put off for later, because we knew the most important thing was to be there in the moment, listening to each other.

I cannot help but wonder, how many opportunities are missed because we don’t take time to sit around the table? To talk. To listen. To share.

There is something powerful about spending quality time with people and getting to know their hearts.  Life is busy. It is fast-paced. Tonight I was reminded how valuable it can be to take time to slow down and enjoy the company of friends.

Think about someone you can invite over. It doesn’t matter if your house is clean or if you have a fancy menu.  What matters is that you take the time to listen and talk about something that matters.

Today, I have heard that a bunch of discussion and attention has been given to a comment that was made on a popular television show, but the conversation that took place around my kitchen table tonight was far more important and worthy of my attention.

I love that I have a place to call home where I can invite people to come and share their hearts, talk about life, and be encouraged. I saw first-hand how important it is to provide an opportunity to unplug from life and gather around the table.

“Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity…”

Ephesians 5:15-16

Inspiring People #1

I love people.

When I see people, I see potential. I see possibilities. I see destinies. I see purpose and value.

Today, I have decided that I am going to start blogging about some of the most inspirational people I have ever met. They are not famous nor are they perfect. They are ordinary people like you and me who have an unordinary zeal for life; and, I am blessed to call them my friends.

Today I am going to blog about two young men who quite honestly impress my socks off.

 First up, is Dimitri.

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Blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) are the people who know the joyful sound [who understand and appreciate the spiritual blessings symbolized by the feasts]; they walk, O Lord, in the light and favor of Your countenance! In Your name they rejoice all the day, and in Your righteousness they are exalted.
Psalm 89:15-16
 

Dimitri lives life with contagious enthusiasm. He makes me happy just by watching him be happy. 

He loves God. He loves people, and it shows.

He prays for people just because they liked one of his Facebook statuses.

He hears from God and is not afraid to share what he has learned.

He listens and obeys the voice of the Holy Spirit.

Dimitri is a role-model for men of all ages.

He is learning what it means to wait on the Lord, and is learning how to wait expectantly for what is coming in his life.

He gets excited about the Word of God and new revelations.

He pursues God with every fiber of his being and out of an overflow of what is in his heart he pursues living a life of purpose, integrity, and lost souls.

Thank you, Dimitri,  for stirring up excitement in my soul.

 Next up, is James.

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So he shepherded them according to the integrity of his heart, And guided them by the skillfulness of his hands.
Psalm 78:72
 A cheerful disposition is good for your health…
Proverbs 17:22
 

James has a heart to lead the upcoming generation of young men. He inspires me to be a better leader and can make me laugh until it hurts.

He has a passion to see mentors rise up for young men.

He finds humor in any situation.

He builds people up with his words and helps them see their value.

James challenges himself to grow, and is honest with himself about improvements he needs to make.

He seeks to know God deeper and apply what he learns to his life.

He talks to God with genuine conversation as if he is talking to Him face-to-face.

He is preparing himself to be a godly husband and strives to make decisions today that will protect his future wife’s heart.

Thank you, James, for making me smile and reminding me that my influence in this world is making a difference.

My prayer is for everyone to have a “Dimitri” and a “James” in their life.

Someone who brings them excitement and pure joy, and someone who fills their life with laughter, inspiration, and encouragement.

Show me your friends…

I remember the moment I decided to change my phone number. It was the night I realized I had the wrong people in my life and I needed to make a change.  A serious change that needed to happen fast. The decision to begin cutting people out of my life was difficult, but it was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

I love this quote from Pastor Craig Groeschel: “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

It is important to choose friends carefully. No matter how strong or independent we think we are, we become the people we hang out with. The truth is it’s impossible to live the right life when you have the wrong friends.

I have had to make some tough choices when it comes to the people I allow to have access to my life, but tonight as I sat across the table from two of my best friends, I realized it was all worth it.  While sipping hot chocolate we talked about life and I was reminded of how blessed I am.

I have friends who challenge me to reach my goals, encourage me to take steps of faith, support me in the tough times, and help me see my weaknesses. My friends give me stability and support. They laugh with me. Share their lives with me. Love me.

I am forever grateful for the friends God has brought in to my life.

Choose your friends wisely. Be intentional about who you allow in to your life, because who you allow in will determine the path your life will take. 

Beyond Measure

Day: Wednesday, September 28th
Time: 9:00pm
Place: In Beautiful Green Country  
Mood: loved, loved, loved
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Love.

It came at me from all angles today.

From various locations. In various forms. From various people.

Chai Lattes.
Phone Calls.
Text Messages.
Facebook.
Hugs.
Smiles.
Advice.
Provision.
Whispers from God.

Unexpected. Inspiring. Encouraging. Motivating.

Love.

PURE. TRUE. Love.

I have to take a moment to be thankful for the love that I have been blessed with. It can be easy to reflect on the hard, the emotional, and the thought provoking things.

But, today was a day worth noting simply because it was full of love.

The kind of love that goes

Beyond Measure

Dear Jesus,
thank you for loving me. thank you for the friendships that so richly bless my life. thank you for reminding me of the power of love.
Amen.
 

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AnD nOw ThEsE tHrEe ReMaIn
Faith.
Hope.
and
Love.
BuT ThE GrEaTeSt Of ThEsE is
Love
1 Corinthians 13:13

Building Trust

Day: Tuesday, September 27th
Time: 4:00pm
Place: In Beautiful Green Country  
Mood: umm…. I don’t know

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Learning to trust people again one step at a time.

For the most part I trust people. But, last night I realized that even though I very much want to trust, deep down I question my ability to do so. 

When friends you thought had your back, talk behind your back you lose a little trust. When a parent promises to do something, but rarely follows through you lose a little trust. When people take advantage of your generosity time-and-time-again you lose a little trust.  When the person who vowed to love and protect you for the rest of your life turns away from you, you lose a little trust.

Trust seems to slip away one person or one event at a time and before we know it, little by little, we start to completely lose trust.

Trust is…
1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.
2. confident expectation of something; hope.
3.confidence in the certainty of future payment for property or goods received; credit: to sell merchandise on trust.
4. a person on whom or thing on which one relies: God is my trust.
5. the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted.

I have been asking myself, how am I going to trust again? How am I going to be able to overcome the hurt and pain?

I certainly want to trust and in everyday situations I almost always give the benefit of the doubt. But, when it comes to my heart, I realize that trust does not come so easily anymore. So what can I do about this? As I pondered these questions I was reminded of by previous blog “”BFF”.”
 
Sometimes I forget I have ““friends”” to help me trust. Wisdom, knowledge, common sense, and insight are all on my side.

Lady Wisdom will be your close friend
Brother Knowledge will be your pleasant companion
Good Sense will scout ahead of you for danger
Madame Insight will keep an eye out for you

Together they will keep you from making wrong turns and following bad directions.

I cannot live my life scared of being hurt, or I will miss out on so many opportunities, but at the same time I have to use the tools God gave me to watch out for people and situations that cannot be trusted.

I also have to remember that I only have limited knowledge and understanding of a situation. I see everything from my perspective. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to Trust in the Lord with all of our heart and not to “”trust”” in our own understanding. And if we acknowledge God in everything we do, He will show us where to go.

We cannot always trust other people or our own judgment. We have to use our common sense, insight, wisdom, and knowledge to help us make the decisions, but at the end of the day we have to put our total and complete Trust in God to lead us.

The truth is that people change. You may be able to trust someone one day but not the next.  And on the flip side, just because you could not trust someone yesterday doesn’t mean that you will never be able to trust them.

 BUT…
Jesus Christ is the same
yesterday and today and forever.
(Hebrews 13:8)

And that is why we can fully put our trust in Him every day. We know He won’t lead us astray or abandon our hearts.

Jeremiah 17:5-9

  This is what the LORD says:

“Cursed is the one who trusts in man,
   who draws strength from mere flesh
   and whose heart turns away from the LORD.
That person will be like a bush in the wastelands;
   they will not see prosperity when it comes.
They will dwell in the parched places of the desert,
   in a salt land where no one lives.

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD,
   whose confidence is in him.
They will be like a tree planted by the water
   that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
   its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
   and never fails to bear fruit.”

I thought this scripture was perfect for the “Uprooted” journey I am on.
🙂

B-F-F

Day: Saturday, September 3rd
Time: 10:00 am
Place: My Mom’s House
Mood: fresh and on a roll!

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Best Friends Forever! I cannot tell you how many folders I have covered with the letters B.F.F. I have been blessed with many BFF’s in my life time, but today I learned that I have 4 other friends who are dying to be my best friends.

What is a BFF anyway?

Well, I would say a BFF is always there for you. Loves you no matter what. Laughs, cries, and sings with you :). A BFF knows what is best for you and looks out for you at all times. A BFF picks you up when you are down. Always has your back. Tells you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear. Doesn’t tempt you to do things you shouldn’t even if it is the “IN” thing to do. The description of a BFF could go on forever!

Today, I sat down to read my bible. I just flipped it open and landed in Proverbs. Proverbs 1 to be exact =P Now if you have been keeping up with my blog you know that I said the one thing I desired from God was wisdom. The first part of Proverbs talk about exactly that… WISDOM!

While reading Proverbs  I am being flooded with wisdom and knowledge and I am still processing it all, but I want to share just one thing. In Proverbs chapter 2 it talks about the “BFF’s” we all have access to and need to invite to be a part of our lives. Without further ado let me introduce…

Lady Wisdom
Brother Knowledge
Good Sense
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Madame Insight

Lady Wisdom will be your close friend
Brother Knowledge will be your pleasant companion
Good Sense will scout ahead of you for danger
Madame Insight will keep an eye out for you

Together they will keep you from making wrong turns and following bad directions.

I don’t know about you, but I think I am going to invite them to be a part of my daily life and to be my Best Friends Forever!  =)